Intentionality Parenting

I am a firm believer in the power of positive, conscious, connected parenting. Yes, because I believe it helps grow healthier children (research supports this.)

But, also, because I believe that YOU MATTER.

This sounds super cliche. But it is true! You don’t only matter because of how you impact your children and society. YOU MATTER. No modifier needed.

Your safety matters.

Your physical health matters.

Your mental health matters.

Your passions matter.

Yes, I believe positive parenting benefits children. But positive parenting also benefits YOU!

👉🏼You deserve to be able to navigate your difficult emotions without feeling like you’re the worst parent on the planet.

👉🏼You deserve to be able to develop the closest and strongest connection with your child possible.

👉🏼You deserve to be able to go to bed at night thinking about the lessons you taught, the moments you connected, and looking forward to tomorrow. Rather than thinking about the guilt you feel about when you screamed at them or spanked them and wishing you could run away before they wake up.

👉🏼 You deserve to be able to assertively set your limits and feel confident about them.

👉🏼 You deserve to be able to create the home environment that you want to have.

🌟 Obviously, I don’t have the magic answers to make all of these things happen ALL the time. Parenting is HARD. But I know positive connected parenting can and DOES help, because it has helped ME 🌟

❤️Through learning to parent my children more compassionately; I learned to be more compassionate with MYSELF. My mistakes, my missteps, my big feelings, my needs.

❤️ Through learning to coach my children through navigating difficult emotions safely and appropriately; I have been coaching myself how to do the same.

❤️ Through allowing my children to set boundaries and listen to their needs; I have been learning to allow myself to do the same.

I am re-parenting little Gabby every time I interact with my own children.

Let me be clear: it is not easy. As a collective, we generally come from generations of trauma that have shaped the way we interact with the world. Poverty, famine, oppression, war…. Those things may not be in our genetics but they are very much inherited in the way we have been taught to live. You didn’t have to grow up in an abusive household to be negatively impacted by the trauma of your ancestors. Generational trauma exists and is valid.

The good news is; the trauma of your great great grandparents doesn’t have to continue to impact you and your children. You don’t have to just survive; you can THRIVE. It DOES get easier with time and practice; and you and your children will be better off for it!

Together, we can help rebuild the pathways in our brains that have negatively impacted the parent/child relationship for generations. ❤️